|  Frenchygirl | Feb 3, 11:35am | | Well,do you have tips to give me? |
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|  |  5062879 | Mar 18, 6:07pm | Self love ``The love of one's self; desire of personal happiness; tendency to seek one's own benefit or advantage. "Self-love, the spring of motion, acts the soul." (Pope)
Synonym: Selfishness.
Self-love, Selfishness. The term self-love is used in a twofold sense: 1. It denotes that longing for good or for well-being which actuates the breasts of all, entering into and characterising every special desire. In this sense it has no moral quality, being, from the nature of the case, neither good nor evil. 2. It is applied to a voluntary regard for the gratification of special desires. In this sense it is morally good or bad according as these desires are conformed to duty or opposed to it. Selfishness is always voluntary and always wrong, being that regard to our own interests, gratification, etc, which is sought or indulged at the expense, and to the injury, of others. "So long as self-love does not degenerate into selfishness, it is quite compatible with true benevolence." . "Not only is the phrase self-love used as synonymous with the desire of happiness, but it is often confounded with the word selfishness, which certainly, in strict propriety, denotes a very different disposition of mind." .
Source: Websters Dictionary
I once read a book by Sue monk kid called When the heart waits was one of the best books I have ever read,but it helped me with self love! She was on a journey for finding her self ,as we have been told since we were born who we are ,I discovered whose I am and that my self esteem doesn't lie within what others say think or try to tell me about me. I worked on forgiveness of others and myself,loving myself and not feeling guilty,start small do something you enjoy,make a date with your self you deserve do self talk tell your self why.you don't have to do anything to be love,or be loved by your self,for me my faith says I am loved because he first loved me ,for me he is my self esteem,and that works for me . Even he went off to have alone time. I meditate for me that is another way to love myself ,I repeat positive things to myself ,that is a way to get rid of the old tapes. Write down a few sentences that are good about you that you like .love about you and repent them as you meditate a few min. that helps you build your self up. This doesn't mean yoru better than others it means that we love ourselves there for we can love others. make a list of goals start small mark them off as you go,I really enjoy this one because you feel good about what you do,if you need to forgive people then put it on the list ,you reap what you sow and this brings you joy because your taking stress off you don't even realize you have. Try it once. Sweet release,and your self love is there here is why because you know deep down what your part was in what ever and does it all matter now? People often hold on to things that harm them more than helps and self hate is the opposite of self love ,what comes with that is guilt,shame sometimes the list goes on we shove it away but our mid has it ,once we let it all go ,sweet release freedom,and our love
of ourself is back. We now know we did what we feel was right and not doing the thing of I have to be right,and I am just mad thing,but self love is back because of the right and good things we do. well these are the things I did ,do I try hard to stay out of the unforgiven thing,guilt ,shame ,they rob me of joy ,happiness and for sure love of my self. Good luck and sorry this long. |
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